A Lesson in Humility from My 3-Year-Old

By Jason Smith

“Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will exalt you.” (James 4:10)

My family recently returned from a trip to Fresno, California, to see relatives. It can be a roughly 12-hour drive from there to Salem. However, as you can imagine, the journey is a bit delayed when you have a one-year-old (Weston) and a three-year-old (Logan) accompanying you. They actually both took a couple naps going both directions, which made things go a little smoother. But, alas, even I was asking, “Are we there yet?” by the 15th hour on the road.

After pulling into our driveway at zero dark thirty, the first thing Whitney and I noted when stepping into our house was how chilly it felt. We soon realized that our furnace was not working, and, perhaps, had not been working for close to a week. My first thought was: I can do this. I’ve fixed things like this before. I hoped this would be a quick fix, but unfortunately, I had to call it quits when I could not figure it out after an hour of fruitless effort. I had to go to work the next morning, so I decided to try my hand at fixing it that evening as soon as I got home. When nothing I tried seemed to be panning out, I turned to YouTube, the fount of DIY (Do-It-Yourself) wisdom.

Sadly, I kept bumping into one disappointment after another. Just when I thought I’d solved the problem, something else turned out to be the “real” issue. The more things I tried and failed, the more I read up on what can cause furnace malfunctions. By the end of the weekend, I felt like I knew every nook and cranny of my furnace, something I’d hardly looked at in the two and a half years we’ve lived in our home. The worst part is, despite the plethora of knowledge I had acquired on home furnaces, I still had not fixed it, and our home was beginning to feel more like an igloo.

I decided now was probably a good time to reach out for help. I called up two family members who are more mechanically inclined, one of which was my father-in-law. Rob, who my sons call “Pappy,” gladly agreed to stop by. Before he arrived, my three-year-old, Logan, came into the garage to watch me struggle for a few minutes more.

“Dad,” he said, in his sweetly matter-of-fact tone, “I think you should just stop and let Pappy fix it.”

Out of the mouths of babes. Ah, yes, it was plain to even my young son that I did not have the mechanical skillset requisite to finish the job. It is a humbling thing to ask for help and admit you do not know as much as you thought you knew.

I cannot help observing that a similar thing can happen in our approach to knowing God. How many different views on God are out there? How many different opinions on Jesus Christ are floating around in our culture alone? There is an in-built tendency for all of us to think we have things figured out, as if we intuitively know what God approves of and what our purpose in life is.

But we are mere humans. We cannot fathom the depths of God’s mind. It is a marvel that He has mercifully revealed anything to us.

The Apostle Paul exulted in God’s greatness:

“Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and how inscrutable His ways! ‘For who has known the mind of the Lord, or who has been His counselor?’ ‘Or who has given a gift to Him that He might be repaid?’ For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory forever. Amen.” (Romans 11:33-36)

The only right posture in approaching a holy God of this magnitude is humble submission.

“But He gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.’ Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will exalt you” (James 4:6-10).

God is eager to shower us with grace and cancel our guilt. The question we all should be asking is: Do I see my need for grace? “Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves” (Romans 12:3a, NLT). That is why God, after surveying all the wonders of the heavens, says, “All these things My hand has made, and so all these things came to be… But this is the one to whom I will look: he who is humble and contrite in spirit and trembles at my word” (Isaiah 66:2).

Is that how you approach God’s holy and perfect Word? Do you tremble at what it means that God has spoken to you? When you turn to a passage in the Bible, do you understand that you are about to encounter the Creator of the universe? Have you seen how desperately you need to hear from Him? And have you recognized just how shallow your wisdom is apart from Him?

Take the gospel for example. No mere human could have devised a plan where God’s holy and beloved Son ends up staked to a cross in order to accomplish our redemption. That is why “Christ crucified” is “a stumbling block to Jews and folly to Gentiles” (1 Corinthians 1:23). “For since, in the wisdom of God, the world did not know God through wisdom, it pleased God through the folly of what we preach to save those who believe” (v. 21).

As it turns out, we do not have everything figured out. And we don’t know as much as we think we know. Certainly, we should turn to “God-breathed” Scripture for the divine wisdom we all need (2 Timothy 3:16). But let’s resolve to approach the Bible with the posture of humility, acknowledging the infinite gap existing between our relatively puny minds and the mind of our all-knowing God. And let’s thank Him for loving us enough to speak to us.

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